One of Jesus's major teachings is forgiveness, which is our job. We cannot control what others do or say, but we can direct our own behavior. Forgiveness is a choice, and a skill. When we look deeper that any unpleasant surface behavior, we will find that a search for love is going on; this includes the most violent behavior. It is easier to forgive a search for love than it is to forgive violence. But it takes practice to make the shift in our perception.